The following was written by a good friend of mine. I am cross-posting her articles here to ensure that they will always be on the internet and that her words will always have a way of reaching her intended audience. She has struggled immensely in her own life with family who failed to support her – who abused her instead of offering the love and care she provided them. Her alchemies run deep, and she has a perspective like no one else – a perspective I have decided to share with my audience. These articles date years back and through them you will see a firsthand snapshot of a remarkable woman’s growth.

-Eric

Ah, morality.

The thing that seems so virtuous, but often perpetuates suffering, and strengthens control.

Many people pride themselves on being highly moral, even if pride is a “sin.” Their views are righteous, regardless of what feeds them.

And the rest of us pay for it.

Welcome to the never-ending illusion of morality.

I, for one, am pretty tired of other people dictating my life. More importantly, I’m sick of the need to feel right overshadowing liberation.

Basically, I’m done with the “high and mighty” attitude masquerading as Love.

As it turns out, (false) morality isn’t really all that “good.” Let’s talk about it.

Not Condoning Evil

As you’re aware, people often see things in extremes. All things are, apparently, black or white. Even though that’s usually far from true.

Therefore, I feel the need to highlight that I’m not advocating for evil here. I’m not saying that there are no consequences to heinous acts. Quite the opposite, in fact.

Horrific acts are still horrific. Violence against other people, or yourself, is certainly villainous. Brutality has unloving and devastating consequences. No argument here about that.

There are a few things humanity has done that are clearly immoral. Such as murder, or (especially child) abuse, of any kind. I’m not even close to saying those things are “okay.” They are not, obviously.

The thing is that “morality” has nothing to do with evil or love. It’s simply following rules that someone else decided.

In my perspective, the overly virtuous are actually more concerned with looking so. It’s merely an image to maintain.

Plus, as far as I can tell, the consequences of so-called “righteousness” is of no concern. It doesn’t seem to matter how stiff rectitude affects you. Only that the rules are followed, by everyone, whether you agree or not. And with total disregard as to what that means, or what that causes.

Oftentimes, (false) morality is not about “doing the right thing.” It’s about feeding an ego with little self-worth. It’s just a trick of the mind, really. That might be sinister, perhaps.

But seeing beyond the veil of one-sided correctness is, arguably, not. It actually seems rather necessary, at this point. Do you agree?

Vicious Consequences of “Morality”

Pain is a primary consequence of stubborn virtue.

As a result, people all over the world are killed and tortured. In other words,they suffer, all in the name of ethicality.

Think of all the people who were viciously slaughtered throughout history for refusing to convert to certain belief structures as an example. Of course, there are plenty to choose from, but witch trials, the Second World War, and the Inquisition comes to mind.

People who consider themselves highly virtuous often want to control your life. Your experiences do not matter; only theirs. Because they’re “right,” simply because they want to feel that way.

The illusion of morality will cause its followers to protest your very existence, and play injurious mind games to get you to join whatever it is they want you to believe. Or you might be forced into a situation that could very well kill you in the name of “love,” even though there is no love in the equation.

It doesn’t matter what you think, or how you feel, as I’ve been told so many times. What happens to you, because of their force, definitely doesn’t matter, either. (Judging from the numerous agonizing attempts to make me fall in line, so to speak.)

It sort of seems like stark, unquestioned obedience merely aids in personal imprisonment and oppression of all. Is that what you want? I don’t.

I have to admit, I do not see a point in “morality” if it causes so much havoc and pain.

There’s no growth. No love. No actual community.

Only stagnant hate trying to rule over you.

Insidious control and manipulation is far from freedom. It’s far from true, as well.

Besides, it’s a serious overstep of boundaries and disallows authentic personal experiences.

To me, very few malignant acts can compete with that. Actually, in a way, that’s the very definition of evil.

Truth Is Often Buried Under Lies

People who consider themselves to be upright are convinced that their way is the only truth, maybe more often than not.

That’s why those who perceive themselves as highly moral (feel they can) override you.

But the truth doesn’t have to do that. Lies do.

Honesty is often buried under such falsities, partially because it simply is. Sincerity has no interest in force, fabrications, or threats. It has no use for things like that.

Sincerity speaks for itself.

It’s one thing to say what you need to say. There’s supreme power in using your voice, as you wish.

It’s a completely different thing to try to take that away from others, just because they don’t align with certain beliefs. Yet, rigid morality does that all the time. And it has, perhaps, since at least recorded history.

In that way, piety is literally just attempted dominance. It is not true, necessarily, but merely attempts to force you into obedience.

Love Is More Important Than (the Illusion of) Righteousness

True love isn’t solely romantic. It’s everywhere.

But you have to allow it.

Forcing one’s own perspectives on others is not equal to compassion. That’s merely control.

Contrary to what many seem to believe, love is not menacing.

Blind obedience isn’t actually virtuous. You’re just helping your own oppressors, quite frequently.

Of course, having your own, authentic values is respectable, but only if you live by them. Still, they cannot come from someone else. If they do, they cannot really be true to you.

In such a case, you’d be giving up on your depths just to appease someone else’s battered ego. It’s like sacrificing your own freedom for a certain look.

Morality is just another game, and it cages us into unwanted and limiting expectations. Rectitude makes us suffer, in the name of “goodness.” Especially when there isn’t any to be found.

Yes, of course, one’s character is essential. But nothing is noble when it’s coerced. Nothing is real when it’s manipulated and controlled.

It only wants to look a certain way. Which makes it false; it’s deception. Merely a false image.

So what matters most? The illusion of morality, or true integrity?It seems you can’t have both.

What does “doing the right thing” mean to you?